People over the years have come to me for relationship advice wanting to know what a healthy relationship looks like. In my own personal experiences and from observing others around me, I’ve found 3 key factors when it comes to building healthy relationships and maintaining them.
To avoid emotional stress, it’s important to know how to have a healthy relationship, that’s why it’s imperative to know what we need. Yes, we all think and act differently in relationships, however, these 3 key factors are important and consistent across every ‘healthy relationship path’.
A common Relationship Question? What does a good relationship look like?
My Relationship Advice: People with relationship problems are lacking these 3 key factors listed below. If you don’t have these 3 key traits, it’s time to stop and assess your relationship.
Here are 3 Key Signs of a Healthy Relationship
1. Trust in Relationships
What do we have without trust? If you are telling white lies, outright lies or being dishonest in any way that’s not healthy and screams signs of a bad relationship. If one person has done something to break the trust it will lead to constant questioning from the other party. The person ‘keeping the secrets or telling lies’ will want out of the relationship due to the feeling of judgment all the time. Also, the person who is having the trust issue can end up resenting that person who broke the trust. It’s a vicious circle that will never work.
If you can’t be open and honest in your relationship your emotional stress will rise and this can lead to anxiety and depression.
All successful relationships must have trust!
2. Respect in Relationships
What do you think respect means in a relationship? It’s about being engaged, caring and listening to their wants and needs.
Unfortunately, I see many people in relationships which aren’t getting respect. They are being used, manipulated, spoken down too and their feelings don’t get considered or worse they get treated with contempt.
Respect is a two-way street, it’s about both people having an appreciation of the other, not doing anything untowardly, there is no intention of deceit, harm and they treat each other with consideration and understanding.
Without respect, resentment and animosity will arise causing us emotional stress as we question our self-worth? No one wants to be in this situation.
All successful relationships must have respect!
3. Love in Relationships
How do I know my partner loves me?
Love comes in many different forms and we all need love in different ways. Depending on how you give and receive love with another person will either make or break your relationship (blog post below, Understanding the 5 Love Languages is Key to Healthy Relationships).
To love and be loved unconditionally is the most wonderful feeling in the world.
Being connected with someone without games, manipulations or abuse in any way, allows the path for openness bringing trust and respect in a relationship.
Humans are emotional beings who need love. With pure love you’ll get unconditional, non-judgemental, mutual respect, understanding, compassion, empathy, and passion which makes your relationship successful. You can overcome challenging obstacles because the foundations are strong.
Unrequited love causes emotional stress therefore, it’s important you are both invested in the relationship.
All successful relationships must have love!
So what does the ‘Big 3’ Stress Solutions Puzzle look like when it comes to 3 Key Factors for Successful Healthy Relationships?
Love. Trust. Respect. These 3 key factors bring communication, balance and a safe space so everything else will fall into place… This is what a healthy relationship looks like!
If you’re questioning these 3 key traits based on your current relationship I urge you to assess what I’ve said. Without a solid foundation, you are destined to fail because over time you’ll inevitably become unhappy. That’s not to say you can’t address these issues and rectify the problem because you can!
Being smart, knowing our own self-worth and how important we are is key! Because if you don’t love, trust and respect yourself then how can you receive that back?
Remember my motto for positive change is ‘Little Puzzle Pieces Create a Big Picture’… By knowing your own self-worth and what a healthy, happy and successful relationship looks like, you are on the road to great times ahead! This will lead to a happy successful relationship!
Until next time be thoughtful, be mindful, be present. This is Character 32 doing her best to help you!