Before I start writing this blog I want you know this is unedited, raw, and just the way I write. Normally I have someone skim through my blogs to check for spelling mistakes and grammar. That being said all my blogs are authentic and written by me, I just get a little bit of help with editing. However, seeing’s as I’m doing a post on my Dyslexia I didn’t want any editing done. And even though I have a mild case there might be spelling mistakes, grammar issues or you may notice I have put the wrong letter somewhere. I also realise this post may come as a shock to a lot of people who know me because I have hidden this for so long. So here I go…..
I grew up in a somewhat whirl wind kind of family living between multiple places and with different family members. My primary school years saw me trying to ‘learn’ between 9 different primary schools over two different states. Because I was so busy trying to make friends I think my learning became less of a priority. I myself had no idea why I was struggling to comprehend what teachers were trying to teach me. Being so unsettled all the time just became my normal way of life.
Needless to say, teachers never had a chance to get to know me before I was shipped off to another school. I think this is how I ‘slipped through the cracks’ as the saying goes. I’m just another one of those statistic cases where I managed to get by through chance. And before you ask ‘why didn’t your parents notice’? Well it’s simple. I honestly can’t remember sitting down reading with them. I don’t recall ever having ‘reading time’ with them. To be fair I think one side of my family has a slight case of Dyslexia because I now pick up some of the same mistakes when I read what they have written. My other parent has excellent reading and writing skills they just didn’t make the time to sit down with me and teach me.
Therefore, no one knew and like I stated in the beginning of this post, my case is mild. So by the time I was 16 I dropped out school because I was so far behind and I couldn’t understand what my teacher was saying half the time and for other reasons (which I’ll blog about at a later date).
some examples of what my Dyslexia is like for me
I get my B and D mixed up and used to jumble my numbers in the wrong order. I can read my sentence out of order as my eyes skip over words and my brain registers them in a different order. I can struggle to retain information and don’t even get me started on math, even my basic arithmetic isn’t great. I cheated all through high school, guess I’m old enough to let that one out of the bag! Ha ha ha
Thankfully my spelling is getting better as is my grammar and sentence structure because I working on it all the time. If you are wondering if you might be Dyslexic, then here’s a link that might help you.
It was in my 20’s when my husband was the first person to notice I was slightly Dyslexic. He was standing over me one day when I was on the computer reading an email out loud. He stopped me and asked me to read it again. It was at that point he told me I wasn’t reading the sentence correctly. I was a little defensive in the beginning but he was right (should I be admitting this? Ha ha ha).
My last boss I had was the second person to pull me up on it. I’d taken a very important phone message and mixed up the numbers (oops!). He was a little upset understandably however he knew it wasn’t deliberate and gave me some very helpful advice which I still use to this day (Thanks Mr KB!).
What has helped me with my Dyslexia and how I have gotten better?
- Once I started improving on my gut health I got better (I’m still working on the gut health!)
- Handy tip from my old boss always repeat back phone numbers to people once you have written them down. This gets your mind seeing the numbers in the correct order and helps train the brain.
- I read and write on my PC in a small font (for some reason that just helps I can’t explain why?)
- I reread everything I write two/three times over and hope I pick up my mistakes (which I don’t always)
- I started reading out loud in my head (does that make sense?) I didn’t say it out load but it was as if I was rehearsing a speech, just without saying it out loud
- Taking my time, no rushing myself and putting any pressure on myself has really helped
- I don’t stress about it, I sometimes joke about it, because at the end of the day stressing about it only makes it worse!
- Meditating helps clear the mind and allows me to focus better
- Googling so I can learn more on context of words, how to spell and grammar
Each and every day I work at it, trying my best to overcome this learning set back. Some days are better than other but I don’t let it get in my way!
If you want to know more about the common characteristics of Adult Dyslexia then click here.
So what does the 'Big 3’ Stress Solutions Puzzle look like when it comes to Signs of Dyslexia started with my learning and reading problems?
To be completely honest when I first started posting my blogs on line and using social media, I was feeling ‘stressed’ about it. What if I don’t pick up my spelling mistakes before I hit comment? What if I have spelt this incorrectly and people notice?
I know I am far from stupid, just because I can’t always spell/write or get my grammar 100% right all the time. It doesn’t mean I am less of a person. It’s just the way my brain works and I am working on it! Over the years I have made a lot of improvements.
Should anyone choose to judge me because of being slightly Dyslexic then that’s their prerogative. What others think of me is really none of my business it’s theirs! I know who I am, a human that’s not perfect just like every other person on the planet.
My motto for positive change is ‘Little Puzzle Pieces Create a Big Picture’… So I don’t allow myself to get stressed anymore over my posts, spelling and grammar. If people can accept that I have flaws which I am working on that’s great and if they can’t then so be it.
Being Dyslexic is nothing to be ashamed about, it’s life, it happens to some of us and I embrace it because it’s a little flaw I have. Every day I work at it, trying to improve and I think I am getting better (you can be the judge by reading this blog, how I am I doing so far?).
So if you are Dyslexic like me take solace in knowing it hasn’t stopped me from achieving what I want to, it just takes a little more time and effort than it does for others. Know there is nothing to be ashamed about, it is what it is. By looking at photos of me would anyone know? No. I’m a flawed human doing my best and enjoying my life because life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Some might not see it that way, which is their choice. For me it’s been about getting help from people, improving my gut health and really working at retraining my brain. And if you see I have made spelling mistakes in my blogs or on my social media please let me know so I can correct them, that would really help me out, thanks! And I have read and reread this post about 10 times now so I’m hoping I picked up all spelling mistakes, but if I haven’t I did my best.
Until next time be thoughtful, be mindful, be present. This is Character 32 doing her best to help you!