Question: What is or what causes us emotional stress?
Answer: It's a thought, feeling or situation that causes you to be upset or annoyed.
Hi and welcome I’m Character 32, and I wanted to share some of my insight concerning emotional stress with you.
When it comes to Emotional Stress there are so many ‘trigger factors’ in play it can be hard trying to pin point the problem. It’s a feeling, thought, or a time in your life when you are dealing with a situation which causes you to ‘feel stressed’. We can feel ‘weighed down’ and ‘tired’ or ‘overwhelmed’ when dealing with our emotional stress. At times it could be driven by a physical or environmental stress but let’s just address the emotional stresses today.
Below is a list of possible ‘trigger factors’ I look for when people tell me they are ‘feeling stressed’. It’s all part of what I call the 'Big 3’ Stress Solutions Puzzle.
What is emotional stress and how does it affect us?
What types of personal stress can emotionally stress us...
- Negative thinking
- Living in the past
- Excessive worrying
- Unrealistic expectations on yourself or regarding others
- Thoughts and worrying about ‘keeping up’ with what others have
How family and friends can emotionally stress us...
- Planning a wedding
- Getting a divorce
- Family breakdowns
- Sibling rivalry
- Family or friends pushing you aside
- Raising children
- Dealing with family/friends who have addictions
- Caring for an ill person in the family (physically or mentally)
What types of emotional stress can be work related...
- Starting a new business
- Running a business
- Pressure of being a boss and having staff
- Your boss, co-workers who upset you
- Being looked over for a promotion
- Feeling unappreciated at work
- Over worked and under paid
- Having an unfulfilling job
- Job uncertainty
- Not getting enough ‘down time’
- Long work commutes
- Looking for work/or a new job
How relationship factors can cause emotional stress...
- Being in an abusive relationship/ household
- A relationship breakup/ losing a loved one
- Lack of social support and or family/work/relationships
- Being left out of gatherings/parties/social functions
- Competitive friendships
- One sided friendships (feeling of being used)
- Friends who put you down so they feel better about themselves
- Judgemental friendships
Financial stress can trigger emotional stress...
- Financial stress with bills or mortgage
- Living in poverty
- Credit card debt
- Trying to ‘keep up with the Joneses’
- Shopping addictions
- Gambling addictions
- Living beyond your means
Other forms of emotional stress include but are not limited to...
- Moving house
- Moving interstate/overseas
- Being an Expat
- Miscarriage/infertility problems
- Personal illness
- Surrounding neighbours impeding on your personal space
- Been a victim of crime
- Being bullied, teased, picked on
- Renovating or building a property
- Public Speaking
- Living through drought/floods
- Environmental disasters affecting your living conditions
- Being homeless
This list is only a guide to give you some insight into what I mean when I talk about ‘Emotional Stress’.
Chances are you have scrolled through the list and thinking to yourself, yes that’s me! I am emotionally stressed!
Good news! We are going to work through this step by step and learn how to make positive changes in our lives. Stress management isn’t about just fixing one thing, it’s about making positive changes to help you grow and become healthier and happier.
Over the course of time, we can work together and help reduce or eliminate some of these ‘Emotional Stress’ factors. The key is to understand and know what our ‘trigger factors’ are so we can make the necessary changes to prevent them from reoccurring.
Until next time be thoughtful, be mindful, be present. This is Character 32 doing her best to help you!